Public Speaking Fear? – The Number One Belief Stopping You From Overcoming Your Speaking Fear

Let me ask you a question…

And please, be honest when you answer it.

When you hear the words, “public speaking,” how do you feel inside?

If you’re like most people, you associate negative feelings around those words. They cause you to feel fear, anxiety, nervousness, and a host of other negative emotions.

But, have you ever stopped to ask yourself “why” this is? What I mean is, aren’t there people out there who actually enjoy the process of speaking in public? When they hear the words “public speaking,” don’t they feel positive emotions such as excitement, enthusiasm, and joy?

What is it that these people do differently than the rest of us? The answer may shock you. In order to understand why people are so afraid of speaking in public, it’s important to first recognize where public speaking fears come from.

There have been certain limiting “beliefs” or mental programming instilled within us throughout the years. These “programs” influence the way we feel about speaking in public. When it comes to public speaking, I think we can all agree most of our “conditioning” has been negative..

For example, we’re told over and over again the number one fear in America is speaking in public. The results from that survey show people in the United States actually fear speaking in public more than they do death.

Personally, I believe these survey results are hogwash. But, we can discuss that another time.

For the purposes of this article let’s just assume the results are true.

Additionally, you may have experienced something negative in your life surrounding public speaking. Perhaps you had an embarrassing experience, you messed up a speech, or the audience laughed at you.

Experiences such as this can also contribute the feeling and thoughts you have surrounding the subject of public speaking.

So…where does this lead us?

It leads us to the number one belief stopping you from overcoming your fear of public speaking.

That belief is precisely this:

“It’s NORMAL to feel nervous before or during a performance or presentation given to a group of people.”

Now, how many times have you heard this or a similar statement?

You may have even heard it from top athletes, coaches, speakers, and even other trainers. You’ve heard it from close friends, family members, and people you respect deeply.

As, such you may have accepted it…without question. Truth is, it’s complete hogwash. Not only that, it’s dramatically affecting your ability to speak in public. In fact, I’d be willing to bet this one single belief has caused you a lot of resistance in life when it comes to speaking your mind.

Maybe you’ve been too nervous to ask for a raise at work? Perhaps you resist sharing your ideas with your work peers for fear you’ll be ridiculed. Maybe you want to pursue a job in sales but fear the thought of making public presentations?

Whatever it is you’ve resisted in the past, I’d be wiling to bet this belief had something to do with it.

So..what do you do now?

Well, simply becoming “aware” of this limiting belief is a good start.

I mean, how can you ever hope to overcome a problem you didn’t even realize you had. Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not really your fault you have this problem but more of a product of the environment you live in.

Yet, I think we can all agree this belief isn’t helping anyone get more of what they want out of life.

Awareness is the first step.

Now, that you’re aware of the number one belief stopping you from overcoming your fear of public speaking, you can take practical steps to overcome it. There are several methods available to do this – many of them are extremely effective.

They include visualization, self-talk, practice, and more training.

In fact, the best approach is to confront the belief and work to overcome it using as many different approaches as possible.